Dating can be fun, exciting, and nerve-wracking, all at once! Usually we want to make sure that our first date leads to something more. It’s said “You never get a second chance to make a first impression”. Your first impression can be decisive. We definitely believe in going with the flow, but we do have a few tips to help ensure a second date.
1. Be authentic
There are certain subjects you should avoid during a first date, and you don’t want to reveal your darkest secrets, but at the same time you have to be honest, especially with online dating. Your information should match your online profile.
2. Choose the place wisely
Do meet your date at a nice place where you can talk. It should be decent enough to make the other person comfortable and not too crowded so you can get to know each other at your ease.
3. Listen to them
Let them know you’re interested in your date by listening to them. Ask them questions, but be selective; don’t ask questions you wouldn’t be willing to answer yourself.
4. Be on time
Make a good first impression by being on time to your date. Don’t make them wait as it can be a massive turn-off.
5. Be calm and composed
You should remain calm and composed. Don’t allow any potential nervousness create a problem for you; just get comfortable and enjoy the date.
6. Dress up
Appearances do count on your first date. Dress up properly in something where you look decent, but still remain comfortable.
7. Do offer to pay
When the check comes, offer to pay. If your date insists on paying, offer to split.
8. Stay positive
Try to show your date that you have a positive outlook towards life. People dislike negative energy around them; your positivity is vital.
9. Be cautious and stay safe
If you’re going on a date with someone whom you know through social networking or dating sites, it’s better to remain cautious about the person and place. Tell someone where you’re going and who you’re going to be with.
1. Don’t brag
Try not to boast about yourself whether it’s something personal or professional as it’s a major turn-off. People do like to get to know you, but boasting during a date won’t make you look good.
2. Don’t talk about past relationships
Don’t bring your past relationships up in conversation unless it’s asked. It’s expected that people don’t usually want to know this on a first date. It can come across as negative and show you’re not ready for dating yet.
3. Don’t talk only about yourself
Whether for a first or later date, you should not make your conversation an “I” thing. It shouldn’t only be about your life; ask them questions and let them talk.
4. Don’t be obsessed with your phone
Try not to peep at your phone every few minutes as it could be a deal breaker. It’s rude to be on your phone during a conversation, especially for a first date.
5. Don’t be too personal
Maybe you like the person you’re talking to and thinking about starting a relationship. You might want to know them inside out but it’s not advisable to ask too many personal questions. It can make your date uncomfortable and they can think of you as an obsessive person.
6. Don’t reveal your weaknesses
If you want your date to be a successful one, focus on your strengths and try not to reveal your weaknesses as it’ll have a negative impact and could mean a NO for your next date.
7. Don’t be over emotional or too dramatic
It’s advisable to be neither too emotional nor too dramatic during a date, as it can give completely the wrong impression and could be a turn off.
8. Don’t drink too much
2-3 drinks could be fun, but don’t get so drunk that you spoil your date and regret it later. You might reveal something better kept secret, or do something that’ll make you groan the next morning.
9. Don’t text/call them immediately after leaving
Wait a little before texting them after the date. You can text them that you had a great time, but hold off for a bit, be patient.
What to do after the date is over?
We always have several thoughts going on in our mind after a first date: should we call them; should we ask them on another date; and so on… Here are a few pointers on how you should behave after the date is over.
1. Do send a text saying you had a good time
There’s nothing wrong in being honest. In fact, there’s a chance that your date also wants to tell you the same thing, but they’re too shy.
2. Don’t message them the minute they’re out of sight
It’s said patience is the key to success. Well, you’ll have to use it here. Wait a little while before texting your date. You can send a good night or a good morning text.
3. Don’t post on social media
While you might be excited about your date and want to share it with your friends on social media, DON’T. Your date might not appreciate this.
4. Let things take their own course
Don’t panic if they’ve not asked you for a second date. Sometimes things take time, so if the date went well, roll with it.